healing power of gratitude

In the book of Luke, chapter 17, we read:

“And it came to pass, as he went to Jerusalem,that he passed through the midst of Samaria and Galilee.

“And as he entered into a certain village, there [he met] ten men that were lepers, which stood afar off:

“And they lifted up their voices, and said, Jesus, Master, have mercy on us.

“And when he saw them, he said unto them, Go shew yourselves unto the priests. And it came to pass, that, as they went, they were cleansed.

“And one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, and with a loud voice glorified God,

“And fell down on his face at his feet, giving him thanks: and he was a Samaritan.

“And Jesus answering said, Were there not ten cleansed? but where are the nine?

“There are not found that returned to give glory to God, save this stranger.

“And he said unto him, Arise, go thy way: thy faith hath made thee whole.” ²

The topic I will focus on this morning is how gratitude for our blessings..whether great or small, can help heal our souls in times of trial, heartache or struggle.

Just this past week, some friends of ours experienced a devastating tragedy. With their permission, I would like to share their story.

After struggling for years to conceive, Sarah and Darren finally got their wish, and 18 months ago had a beautiful baby girl named Brooke. What sweet new parents they were, so proud and attentive to little Brooke with her bright blue eyes. Unfortunately, a week ago Wednesday, tragedy struck when Brooke choked on a dry kidney bean. She suffered severe brain damage which resulted in nonstop seizures, forcing the doctors at Children’s Hospital to place her in an induced coma. The blog post Sarah wrote informing everyone of what was happening ended in the following paragraph:

We are so very thankful for all of the love and prayers offered for Brooke and ourselves. We are thankful for the power of the priesthood, and the love and service that have been given. We appreciate knowing that we have your shoulders to cry on, and your faith to lean on. And we're grateful for the many offers of help. We are thankful for the peace and strength that have been clear answers to heartfelt, pleading prayers. He gives us what we need to get through the next few hours, and then He gives us more. I pray that through your prayers for our sweet baby girl, that you will also experience that sweet peace, reassurance and strength. 

What an amazing example. Even in their darkest, most hopeless hours, Brooke’s parents expressed gratitude for their blessings. For the blessings of the priesthood, for the blessing of the comfort and prayers of others. And they selflessly expressed hope that OTHERS would feel sweet peace, reassurance and strength.

Here is their account of just last Sunday:

Today we watched videos of Brooke laughing, making faces, and exploring. We shared stories of all the ways she has brought joy into our life and sang Primary songs. We prayed and thanked God for the gift of 18 wonderful months with this precious little girl. With lots of family gathered around, Darren gave her a priesthood blessing. He told God that although we were here, asking for, and believing in the miracle of healing her, we were also at peace with returning her to His arms. 

Shortly afterwards, Brooke’s heart rate and blood pressure dropped rapidly and Sarah and Darren made the heartbreaking choice not to have her resuscitated.

Here is what Sarah wrote Sunday evening:

Brooke's time on earth is at an end. She has had an amazing and joyful life. She has done what she needed to, here on earth. She has made me a mother, and Darren a father. She has knit us so very close together. She has brought joy to everyone who has seen her. She has received her perfect, darling, chubby little body. She has lived every precious moment of her life to the fullest.

I hope that everyone who has hoped and prayed for our sweet little Brooke can feel some measure of the peace and grace we feel now. I know it is because of your powerful prayers and the mercy of God.

I have felt very close to the veil, and received wonderful spiritual impressions of the joy, beauty, and love in the place where Brooke is now. We feel that her spirit has left her body, and that she is in the arms of our loving Savior, and with family that loves and cherishes her. 

Sarah and Darren chose to have Brooke’s organs donated and on Thanksgiving morning, 3 separate children received her organs and are on their way to healthy recovery. 3 separate families had their prayers answered through Darren and Sarah’s faithful sacrifice. The final speaker at Brooke’s funeral said the following, “Seeing beyond what we only see as mortals is the test of this life.”

Sarah and Darren were able to do that..to see into eternity and understand the Lord’s plan for their family.

Instead of focusing on the pain and the heartache, they instead chose to count their blessings and focus on the joy that Brooke brought into their lives. They chose to look to God and recognize that He has a plan for all of us, even if we might not understand it at the time.

James E. Faust has said “Everybody in this life has their challenges and difficulties. That is part of our mortal test. The reason for some of these trials cannot be readily understood except on the basis of faith and hope because there is often a larger purpose which we do not always understand. Peace comes through hope.”

Wouldn’t you rather feel peace and hope and God’s love, rather than sadness, confusion, or even anger?

As demonstrated in Sarah and Darren’s recent experience, one vitally important key to finding that peace is through gratitude. Sometimes in our trials it is a difficult task to find even the smallest blessings. But, I promise that once you start counting your blessing, you will come to see the Lord’s hand in your life and feel the love that He has for you.

Bonnie D. Parkin in the April 2007 General Conference said,

Gratitude requires awareness and effort, not only to feel it but to express it. Frequently we are oblivious to the Lord’s hand. We murmur, complain, resist, criticize; so often we are not grateful.

Gratitude is a Spirit-filled principle. It opens our minds to a universe permeated with the richness of a living God. Through it, we become spiritually aware of the wonder of the smallest things, which gladden our hearts with their messages of God’s love. This grateful awareness heightens our sensitivity to divine direction. When we communicate gratitude, we can be filled with the Spirit and connected to those around us and the Lord. Gratitude inspires happiness and carries divine influence. “Live in thanksgiving daily,” said Amulek, “for the many mercies and blessings which he doth bestow upon you.”

I love that Amulek instructs his people to Live in Thanksgiving Daily. I love the challenge of noticing the wonder of the smallest things all around us in our lives.

How much more hope and joy would we have in our lives and in our hearts if we practiced this very concept?

There is a video that has recently been produced by the church entitled Thanksgiving Daily.

In it, several people of various age and race share the following message:

Our minds have a marvelous capacity to notice the unusual.

However, the opposite is true as well

The more often we see the things around us, Even the beautiful and wonderful things,

The more they become INVISIBLE to us

That’s why we often take for granted the beauty of this world:  The flowers, The trees, The birds, The clouds, ….EVEN those we love

Because we see things so often, 

We see them less and less.

Those who live in Thanksgiving daily, however,

have a way of opening their eyes And seeing the wonders and beauties of this world As though seeing them for the first time.

Look around you..Notice the people you care about

Notice the fragrance of the flowers and the song of the bird

Notice and give thanks for the blue of the sky, The red of the leaves, And the white of the clouds,

Every sight, every smell, every taste, every sound.

When we open our eyes and give thanks for the bountiful beauty of this life,

We live in thanksgiving daily.

President Thomas S. Monson in his talk entitled The Divine Gift of Gratitude said,

"A grateful heart comes through expressing gratitude to our Heavenly Father for His blessings and to those around us for all that they bring into our lives. This requires conscious effort—at least until we have truly learned and cultivated an attitude of gratitude."

Returning back the story of the Ten Lepers in the book of Luke…

Bonnie D. Parkin stated, 

“Isn’t it interesting that the Lord did not say, “Your gratitude has made you whole”? Instead, He said, “Thy faith hath made thee whole.” ⁷

The leper’s expression of gratitude was recognized by the Savior as an expression of his faith. As we pray and express gratitude to a loving but unseen Heavenly Father, we are also expressing our faith in Him. Gratitude is our sweet acknowledgment of the Lord’s hand in our lives; it is an expression of our faith.

I am thankful for the blessings that I have in my life. I am thankful for my testimony, I am thankful for the presence of the Holy Ghost in my life, I am thankful for Paul, and for Ava, Max, and Mabel. I am thankful for my Savior and His atoning sacrifice for me. I’m grateful for this opportunity that I’ve had to share this message of Thanksgiving and gratitude with you and to bear my testimony of the healing power of recognizing the blessings in our lives. EVEN when we might feel that there are few or even none. God loves each one of us and knows us intimately.

Matthew Chapter 6, verses 32 and 33 state,

“Your heavenly father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen

improvement

last night my soul was truly lifted.
i feel like it's been a long time since i've felt that.
so many distractions, so much going on.
i definitely do not focus my actions on the
best
in life
and sometimes not even on the
good
in life.

i am constantly feeling like a failure of a mother.
at the end of every day i remember things
i did
or words
i said or
things
i didn't do
that make me feel regret.

i wonder why i can't control my temper.
i wonder why i can't just walk away from my email,
from facebook
and the phone and
just
be.
be with my kids.
be in my life.

all these thoughts rushed through my head and soul
last night.

i was truly enlightened
realizing how spiritually unhealthy i am.

recently, i read in my patriarchal blessing
about developing patterns and routines in my life
that will sustain me in my desire to choose the right.

so, in the past two weeks i have refocused
on my scripture study
and begun reading my scriptures in the mornings
right when i wake up.
it has helped a little bit.

this is something
i haven't put too much weight on since marrying paul.
{i know this is something that i always come back to.}
when it was just me i was so vigilant
about praying and reading my scriptures and feeling the spirit.
but then he came along
and i split that devotion.
devotion to him
and devotion to the Lord.

i always knew
that the man i married needed to love the Lord more than me.
and
i always knew that i wanted to be that way myself.
knowing my priorities.

...
it is just somthing i need to work on.
to focus on.
to refocus on.

to find time in my daily life to exercise my spiritual well being.
read the ensign.
listen to uplifting music.
meditate.

remember my purpose here on earth.
to be a mother in zion.
to raise my children in righteousness.
to uplift myself and strengthen myself spirtually.
so, when i am lonely or discouraged,
i can rely upon that spiritual strength.
instead of feel alone.
no one should ever feel alone.

last night the first talk mentioned women in all walks of life.
and how some women live in circumstances
where they don't even feel safe.
but are still faithful latter day saint women.
tears came to my eyes
as i thought of my ingratitude for what i have been given.
amazing blessings that others hope for.
and i have.

so, a gratitude journal is a start.
to think of things i have been bountifully blessed with:

{we all are healthy.

{i have an amazing husband who helps out at home. he loves me and the kids and strives to serve us even after working all day. he comes home and helps with dishes and with picking up the house. with getting the kids in bed and reading stories and changing diapers and giving baths. he never complains about anything but works side by side with me on this journey we chose to embark on together.

{i have wonderful, beautiful children who listen and obey and are fun and imaginitive and helpful. they play together and work together and love each other and love me and love paul. they want to please us and want to do good.

{i have a loving extended family. my family who raised me and loves me and wants me to be happy and my husband's family who has taken me in as their own. all who love me and the kids and who call and send birthday cards and packages and truly care for our well-being.

i always think about how
in the end
all that matters is
family
and our relationships.
and our testimonies.
that is all we will have when we die.
not money
or clothes
or personal belongings.
those things
don't
matter.

my children matter.
my husband matters.
my relationship with God
matters.

that is all that matters.

can i refocus this?
can i think about what is important.
and only that.
can i have self control?

it takes
great strength
to control ones actions.
to control ones emotions
and temper.

i feel very weak in this.
this self control that is needed.

Lord bless me in my weakness.
strengthen me where i need strengthened.
and forgive me when i forget
and fall.
i'm trying.
i really am.

blessings

finances have been rather tight since we bought our house. it is not something we are worried about long term, just for a little bit while we catch up. um..i take that back. we still worry, but there is light at the end of the tunnel...christmas bonus, tax return, etc. but at this second, i am wishing we had just a little bit more money. especially with the holidays coming up.

well, on saturday paul cleaned out and organized the garage and we were able to fit the minivan in it. which has been wonderful. no getting in and out of the car in the rain. and ava caught sight of storage boxes that hold my stuff from when i was a little girl. and has been pestering us to get them out so her and i can go through them.

yesterday, we finally went through all of the boxes and in one of them, i found a thank you card from years ago when paul and i were first married and babysat the jones' girls {our flower girls} while their parents went away for the weekend for their anniversary. we still talk about this experience and how exhausted we were after feeding and entertaining these girls for two days. yet, how much fun it was getting to experience that. well, in the thank you card was $50.00 cash. i don't know why i never deposited it. or why it was still in there after almost 10 years. but what a sweet blessing it was to find that money. and how very needed it is.

one of my favorite scriptures:

"..take no thought, saying,
What shall we eat? or,
What shall we drink? or,
Wherewithal shall we be clothed?

For your Father in Heaven knoweth that ye have need of all these things.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness,
and all these things shall be added unto you."

when it is so easy to feel alone in my struggles, what a glorious comfort it is to be reminded by such a small thing as $50 that my Heavenly Father knows little me and is willing to help me and bless me.